As of late I go on FB for 1 of two things, to look at what is going on in my moms group OR check on what my business group is doing. Ok, maybe three things. Every once in awhile I post something inspiring, what I find to be funny or a link to something I think is really worth sharing. Other than that I try and stay off of it. Facebook can be a really great tool, it can also be a really shitty one. Every so often I find myself comparing myself to others or my daughter’s milestones to other kids and then I talk some sense in to myself and kick the madness in the ass. I find that with social media and parenting in general these days there is a lot of comparing going on, a lot of keeping up with the Jones’s and a lot of ‘humble’ bragging. The combination of these three is pretty deadly. It’s like poison, for real.
I recently read a post on FB by a sweet mother asking about anxiety and a kid’s birthday party. She felt frazzled and not overly confident in her parenting abilities when attending birthday parties. She asked if others felt this way or if she was the only one. I wanted to pick up the phone and call this sweet mother and let her know she isn’t alone in this, she never is. But even more I wanted to tell her to not beat herself up over anything when attending a birthday party or even just being a mom. No one cares if your child arrives in two different shoes, messy hair, food on their face. No one cares if you are a few minutes late or if your child is being a little wild. We are all just trying to survive as parents. We all know that kids can be assholes sometimes. That getting kids, especially if you have multiples, to a birthday party on time can be a challenge in itself. It’s about survival guys. It’s about keeping your sanity. Don’t over think anything. Be confident in yourself, in your abilities as a parent. Don’t worry about what those other parents think. If something is working for you keep doing it and never stop. While there are days that can be overly challenging, and for you it may be attending a birthday party, you have to remember to also have some fun with it. Make those moments, even if you are stressed, count. If your child is dressed, fed and arrives relatively on time for a birthday party that is all that matters. And if there are moms there giving you the side eye for whatever reason, kill them with kindness. That gets them every. single. time. Remember to never compare yourself to others, try and stay away from that poisonous combination I was talking about earlier. We all know, or should know, that what we see on social media isn’t real life. It’s a highlight reel of what is really going on. It’s all puppies and rainbows, and guys, that shit is not real life.
especially with popusocial media because we all know it’s just a highlight reel of what’s really going on.